'I can't believe the audacity' : Marriage off to a Rocky Start as Husband Takes Mother’s Side Over a Wedding Speech Dispute Instead of His Wife’s

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    Font - Posted by u/Character-Cow2577 11 hours ago AITA for refusing to listen to MIL's speech on my wedding?
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    Font - So I hate speeches. I never understood the appeal. I think they are boring, exhausting and very very forced but having said that, this is just my opinion and I never forced it on anyone. I have sat through long excoriating speeches without complaining like any other decent human being.
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    Font - When it was my turn to get married however, I requested no speeches. We wrote that we loved everyone and that we knew they loved us so if you want to say anything say it to us directly, in private.
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    Font - My husband thought it was funny but he knew my feelings about speeches. We had a small wedding with only loved ones. a weekend long. My husband loves games so the wedding planner did a really great "task master" type of games and everyone appreciated it. Dinner came
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    Font - and MIL stood up and started by saying (I know we are forbidden to make speeches by the bride but this is my only son getting married so I will day what I want to....) I didn't hear the rest because I was seeing red. My sisters and bride's maids were shocked. I pretended like she wasn't talking and continued my conversation with my girls. They did the same.
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    Font - MIL was furious, both SIL's were furious and my husband was very angry that it showed in his profile, he refused to look at me. the rest of the night was awkward. my husbands side sulking in their seats. I wanted to make sure it wasn't ruined for the rest of us and we ended up having a blast. nest day I spent it with my family and friends.
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    Font - My husband said that I was very wrong in what I did. I couldn't force MIL to stfu and he knew she wouldn't no matter how much we told her. I should't have disrespected and humiliated her like this. our marriage started on the wrong foot it seems. AITA?
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    Font - PS: MIL loves making speeches, sometimes 15min long and not unusually mean speeches (disguised as humor that often isn't appreciated at all by the speakeé
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    Font - Ok_Research_8379 · 11 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [11] Well that's unfortunate that the day you got married you found out your husbands always gonna pick his mom over you. Such disrespect from MIL. NTA 15.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Odd-Comfortable-6134 10 hr. ago. edited 4 hr. ago Your husband showed you who he actually priorities and it isn't you. Expect this behaviour to escalate. Kids? You know she's going to want to be in the room because IT'S HER ONLY SONS' BABY and it's her right. She's going to demand naming rights, and to move in to "help".
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    Font - It's early enough to get annulled (divorced, whichever. Just away from This family) if you (rightly) decide you deserve someone better. You are NTA right now, but you'll be an ass to yourself if you lock yourself to being second place to this emotionally stunted family.
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    Font - Edit: to add the divorce statement. I was under the impression that because they've been married less than a month, that annulment would be easier/faster. Thank you redditors for setting me straight. ✩ 6.4k Reply Share
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    Font - yellowdaisybutter 9 hr. ago Even if it's not this obvious. It'll be little things. Like your kids never being like you and only resembling her and her family. Her rolling her eyes if anyone disagrees. Or making every holiday or birthday at her convenience and privy to her involvement. Calling and everything that she needs is an emergency. Snide seemingly benign comments meant to put you down. It doesn't have to be as overt as this to be infuriating. 2.0k Reply Share ●●●
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    Font - Clean-Patient-8809 10 hr. ago Partassipant [2] INFO: I wasn't sure what you meant by your last sentence, but it sounds like she's known for saying unkind things in her speeches? If that's the case, you're definitely NTA. You're under no obligation to listen to her belittle you or anyone else.
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    Font - Character-Cow2577 OP 9 hr. ago. edited 9 hr. ago Oh god yes Like when her BIL (my husband's uncle) turned 65 and everyone was making speeches left and right and hers was about how glad she was that he was loved and happy, even though he didn't always feel loved and happy because he had problems with his wife.. she probably thought she was speaking from the heart but the BIL and his wife were very upset. She laughed them off as snowflakes Reply Share 1.3k
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    Font - UhaRugger1 10 hr. ago . Your husband showed you who he is, believe it. Especially since he is still being salty about this 3 weeks later. Go to couples therapy. If not, reevaluate if this is how you want your life to be long term.
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    Font - Eringobraugh2021.8 hr. ago Couples therapy ASAP. Take it from someone who had been married for 20 years, together 22, & we just started therapy. We should have gone years earlier, but he wasn't a fan. Now, we're trying to dig out of 22 years of issues that have built up. You were 100% in the right It wasn't her wedding, it was yours & your husband's, who agreed to the "no speeches." She needed someone to put her in her place. And, I honestly believe therapy should be used as a preventive

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